I went to a wedding. It was a wedding of two 18-year olds and it was
beautiful. The church, flowers, gowns, suits, were absolutely stunning. It was
a themed pink with a touch of Hello Kitty which I wasn't surprised about,
considering how young the bride was. My mom's friend, the mother of the groom,
had a big role in organizing this wedding and she did a great job.
But it wasn't the look of the wedding that struck me the most. It was a
video shown at the reception made made by the couple's friends – the couple's
proposal video.
The bride is pregnant and this is why the wedding came in a hurry. So I
thought, what's the point of proposing a few days before the actual wedding?
That was until I head the groom’s voice in the video. He said "Kahit
ikakasal na tayo, gusto kong maranasan mo to (proposal) dahil papakasalan kita
hindi lang dahil buntis ka, pero dahil mahal na mahal kita."
And that was enough to bring tears to my eyes. He was right. I myself did
not experience a proposal but I was surprised that this kid was wiser than me.
I'm not asking for one now - that ship has sailed long ago. But to all the men out there, make sure your loved one will get to
experience this before you get married. It doesn't have to be grand or
expensive. A simple gesture will do, as long as you prepare something for your significant
other that will let them know how much you are willing to spend the rest of
your lives with them. Some people might think it is a superficial thing to do,
but this has been done for ages. You don't have to imitate the ways others
propose. Just get a ring, do it your way, and propose. It's entirely up to you
-- I'm pretty sure that before you get married you already know that person you
want to marry, so try and take cues from their likes and dislikes.
To the bride and groom of May 3rd, congratulations. Yes you are still kids
but I can see how much you are so in love, and how much willing you are to make
things work. It's not always easy to raise a family, but you have to hold on.
Be strong, support, and understand each other.
